Monthly Archives: October 2008

Mom of 4 year old – Teacher, Teacher: The guilt trip of the working mom

I have been very frustrated by my 4 year old’s teacher lately. Sometimes, I feel that teachers in preschools feel like they know more than the parents, and feel the need to tell us parents what to do or what is best for our children.

Lately, I have been working quite a bit at night and in the early mornings on deadlines for work. Thus, I have been taking my daughter to school late. Sometimes, I forget to bring the assigned items to school for the day. It has been a hectic month. I have been behind on the little things for my B at school. I never forget the important things like her lunch, but when I was asked to bring a can of food to school for the food drive, I forgot. When I was asked to bring my daughter an extra change of clothes for her cubby, I forgot. And when the parents were asked to attend a parade at school from 9:30 to 11A on a school day that ends at Noon, I did not attend and kept my daughter at home so I could finish my work.

Since I work from home, it is tough to get everything done while my daughter is at school for the few hours she is in preschool each day. And since I don’t have a nanny, I cannot just ask the nanny to take my B to school so I can finish working, so often I am in a bind with my schedule and she gets to school late a few days a week.

At my B’s school, many of the moms do not work or have full time nannys if they do work, so I am one of those hybrid moms who work from home with no help. Of course, the teachers do not know that I work because I try to be available all of the time at school to help with projects, attend Parent Teacher Association meetings, and am the one who usually takes B to school. Thus, the assumption is that I am a stay at home mom, and I should have plenty of time to get my daughter to school on time and do everything the preschool asks of me because that is my sole purpose in life.

Lately, I feel like my daughter’s teacher has been judging me. Looking at the clock when I walk my dauther into the classroom 15 minutes late, or stopping me as I run out after drop off to remind me that tomorrow my daughter needs to bring a magazine to class so she can cut things out of it to make a collage. It has been a little bit irritating considering I do a lot for the school as a mother volunteer, and I do a lot for B as a mom and I know it. The teacher (I believe) assumes I am running off to go workout and have coffee with my friends while my daughter is at school. I don’t know what to do about it, and I feel that I should not do anything about it because it is really none of her business. At the same  time,  I don’t want my daughter’s teacher to assume that I am running away from my child for free time when I am going home to work to contribute to her fabulous education.

I suppose this is the guilt that my mother has been talking about all her life. My mom always said she never felt good when she was not working, and she never felt good when she was working. As a stay at home mom, the mom feels like she is never thanked for all her hard work, and feels guilt for not contributing to the family’s bottom line.

Why can’t women feel less guilt and feel good about what they do for their families? Why can’t we feel that we are doing the best that we can for our families daily?

I would love to hear from all of you out there- working moms, stay at home moms, hybrid moms- part time working moms, what is your story?

Just added the photo of Suri Cruise and Katie Holmes together shopping looking happy simply because they are together as mom and daughter. Moms love their kids. They try to so hard. Why all the guilt?

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Weekly Shopping and Goodies

A Few Goody Gumdrops lets us in on the current jeans to own: Current Elliott boyfriend jeans!

Ma Petite Chou is dying for Winter Whites

Puppies and Worms found a way to shop by video on the internet

Shopping and Info wants to tell you that the cast of Lipstick Jungle is cold in NYC and Gisele Bundchen is hot in LA

The Bare Skinny on why this fall is all about the bootie.

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Shopflick is the internet’s new way to shop not your granny’s QVC or HSN

Now that QVC and HSN are big conglomerates, no one would ever dare to make fun of shopping on television. People used to make fun of QVC and HSN viewers/shoppers because they assumed that if you shopped from your home you were a granny or a shut in. If you looked at QVC and HSN in recent years you can see that shopping from your home is not just for people who don’t know any better, it is the new way to shop. Shopping on television is the convenient, sometimes smarter way to shop.


When I was pregnant with B and on bed rest, I did a lot of shopping on QVC and HSN and it was actually a very easy way to buy things that I needed from stores I hated to go to like Bed Bath and Beyond, or Target which were full of people who worked in the store who did not have a lot of product knowledge. During my pregnancy, I found these shopping channels to be filled with product information on many different types of products, helpful customer service people on the phone, and the convenience of home delivery. It was a great situation for someone who was just too tired, and uncomfortable to get around to all the different stores to buy a few items. These shopping channels were the answer to birthday present shopping, home appliance shopping, and generic kitchen supply shopping. However, after my pregnancy I found I returned to shopping on the internet the old way, on the sites with the still photos and the product descriptions because I did not find the clothing, or hipper designer items I liked on QVC or HSN. Thus, my television shopping experience ended when I gave birth.

Now, this type of shopping is not for everyone. If you love designers and high end items, QVC and HSN are shopping channels for people who are looking for items that you can get mostly from your local Target or Bed Bath and Beyond. The quality of the items and price points are mostly in that range. However, recently they have added a range of higher end made exclusively for QVC and HSN products from different celebrity designers as well as celebrities who have their own product lines, but these channels still do not fill the need of a consumer who wants the high end experience of shopping at a high end department store.

Recently, a new store on the internet has launched called Shopflick and I found the new store quite fascinating. The store is an online store that gives you the television shopping experience on the internet. The items carried on Shopflick are a higher end, designer label channel that is geared towards the internet generation. It is sleeker than QVC and HSN and appeals to the client niche that QVC and HSN have not been able to capture yet or do not think they need to appeal to. Either way, Shopflick has filled a bit of a void in the shopping market place.

If you are that person who likes to shop online, but wants to know more about the product besides the product description and the still photos, this new way to shop is for you. I checked it out and the channel carries quite a few hip and cool designers as well as functional items. I think this new way of shopping may have something for the internet shopper. Check it out above, you may find that it fills a shopping void for you. I know it filled a void for me from my pregnancy shopping days.

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Gap coupon code buy one pair of pants get second 50% off now

Puppies and Worms readers we have some special deals for you from Gap:

Click below to go to the specials now. Best one right now- buy any pair of pants and get one at 50% off. Ends November 12, 2008. Shop now.



Gap Men’s, Women’s, and Maternity Pants: Buy One; Get One 50% off Select Styles.
Offer ends November 12. Shop Now!

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Oprah Winfrey Show: Young Millionaire show message today is FOLLOW YOUR PASSIONS

On the Oprah Show today Oprah featured Young Millionaires on her show and the theme was how to make it in business doing something you love. Her direct quote was “follow your passions”.

She talked to Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen about their new book Influence, Gurbaksh Chanal, founder of internet marketing companies like Blue Lithium and Clickagents, about his book The Dream, and Zappos CEO, Tony Hsieh about his work happiness philosophy, and the message was the same throughout.

All the guests really love what they do, and the message was the same, “do what you love and the money will follow”. I believe that to be true, and I think this is a message we should teach ourselves and help our children learn too.

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When I see all the musicians, vets, doctors, actors, writers, inventors, postal carriers, and all the people out there who just love the job they are doing, you can tell they have found their happiness and success.

I know it is a hard argument to believe when you have bills to pay, but I think if we can even find some time in the day to think about what we love to do, and maybe spend our spare time pursuing those dreams when not working to pay the bills, we could eventually find happiness in our work.

Comments are welcome.

Click the Amazon and Zappos banners above now to check out the books and experience Zappos now. Zappos has free shipping and no tax. Another great reason to try it.

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Puppies and Worms Fall eBay Store Sale!

Shameless plug here…

The Puppies and Worms store is having a fall sale on selected items. Check out our eBay store by following the link: http://stores.ebay.com/puppiesandworms?refid=puppiesandworms

Some of our great items include:

  • Ecousable Stainless Steel Water Bottles
  • Cherry Tees
  • Thomas the Tank Engine
  • Cute Chenile Animals and Suitcases

Check out our great items now and stock up for the holidays!

 

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Photos from the CFA Iams Cat Championship Show

Our ticket giveaway winner, Asako, was kind enough to send us some photos from the CFA Iams Cat Championship show. That was so nice of our winner! We love all of our readers and subscribers!

We are posting a few of the photos of cute and cuddly kitties. Asako’s favorite part of the show? The giveaways, especially the diet cat foods since their kitty is a little chubby and needs to go on a diet. How cute! Enjoy the photos!

   

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